love life status.

I am writing this mainly for myself so I can keep looking back & being reminded. but also, some of my tribe members can support me in this, I am sure.

at this time in my life…

I am learning to take a softer stance, surrender, have an open heart.  To let others take the lead, and see what happens when I don’t control things.  Gives others a chance to step up.  I know I may feel anxious about commitments & need to NOT push too hard.

In general, this is relationship slowdown time for me…taking steps back, repairing rifts, making sure my heart is really in things.

but this slowdown & review is allowing me to break down intimacy barriers – to process trust issues, old hurts, fears.  I am learning how to not project the past onto the future.

I know I can speak up, and that the risks I take with my heart will be rewarded.  it’s a time my love life can be rebuilt, reborn.

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right now via Goddess Oracle card reading

so, it’s been a hard 6 months.  it’s still hard.  but I am trying to move back into what feeds my soul.

and I felt like writing this out, probably to process it for myself better.  gemini and all….

in our most recent new moon circle, I pulled two oracle cards….these two.

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our circle theme was intuition, and during this Cancer cycle, it’s all about connecting to our emotions, letting the internal waters flow, listening to that womb wisdom.

and when I tap into that….I hear from Amaterasu:
“look in this mirror.  you are beautiful, and changing, and growing more beautiful.  and it’s time to feel this more.”  this is hard for me to accept sometimes because I feel like I should be more fit, or more desirable. 

and from Pele, I hear:
“there is so much in you to awaken to.  these fires deep in you are stirring, and there will come a point where they blaze out…not in an uncontrolled frightening way, but in a purifying and inspiring one.”  this is just a little scary, because, I mean…fire and shit.

there are some other thoughts that trusted friends have given me intuitively and they’re here in my mind as well…but for now, this is what came from my gut.  so I suppose…it just is.

9 Ways To Channel The Transformative Potential Of Tonight’s Mysterious, Powerful Scorpio Full Moon

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from mindbodygreen

Have you concealed a few layers of your persona? Overlooked some nuances or key details? The Scorpio full moon will illuminate those on Wednesday, May 10, 2017—charging the air with mystery and seduction all week long. Scorpio is the zodiac’s shaman and the ruler of extremes. It can draw out both our darkest shadows and our most enlightened selves. Ready for a major shift in your life? Turn it over to la luna for some deep processing and healing.

Under the spotlight of the Scorpio full moon, we can expect a lot of interesting intel and colorful confessions to come to light when it reaches its peak around 5:42 p.m. EST. The full moon in May is also known by Native American tribes as the full Flower Moon, a time for burgeoning May flowers and vivid shades of green and pink that follow April’s showers.

Under the light of the Scorpio full moon, a spring fever outbreak could become pandemic, and pairings more permanent. Have you been secretly lusting? Intense attraction will be all-consuming—but these very situations could take a dramatic turn. What starts out as a dynamic spark may turn into a heated lovers’ quarrel, with some Scorpio jealousy thrown in for good measure. Reacting to our quick-fire emotions would be a bad idea this week—especially the ones on the list of Seven Deadly Sins.

But this Scorpio lunar energy might even push promising partnerships past their tipping point, too. The urge to merge will be stronger for many, with playing-for-keeps Scorpio in the mix. Exciting partnerships could become “officially official” before the week is through.

Legend has it that there are three “phases” of Scorpionic energy. There’s the low-vibe, ground-dwelling Scorpion (the symbol for Scorpio), who stings every threatening passer-by; then the observant eagle, taking in its sweeping view from high overhead. The most transcendent Scorpio form is the phoenix, which rises from the ashes of destruction and shows us the remaining signs of life.

Here are a few ways to channel the mysterious and powerful Scorpio full moon to your advantage:

1. Illuminate what’s been hidden.

Open closet, exit skeletons. With the illuminating full moon beaming into Scorpio, ruler of secrets, la luna reveals all of the “secrets” we’ve been keeping—including hiding your own inner light. If you have a lesser-known talent, bring it out of hiding. If you’ve been too frightened to explore a part of yourself, go THERE. Regenerative Scorpio is a deeply creative water sign with a gift for making everything old seem fresh again. Tap your inner alchemist: Reinvent something old into a striking new idea. Don’t be afraid to stand out by boldly baring your most intimate truth…or by wearing it on your sleeve.

2. Dare to be vulnerable.

Intimacy is soul-fusing Scorpio’s domain. It rules the eighth house of fusion, that energetic space where we merge our energy and resources with another person’s. That sounds romantic, but it can actually be rather intimidating. Joint finances, cohabitation, allowing someone to see your vulnerability, learning to trustthese Scorpionic acts may not be easy or comfortable, but they’re what true intimacy requires. (Check out our favorite-ever books on love and intimacy here.) Scorpio is also known as the sex sign, and rightly so (anyone who’s been with a Scorpio will attest to this sign’s addictive powers…hello, soul-communing sex). The Scorpio full moon is known for delivering pregnancies, marriages, divorces, or just the best romp of your life. Rrowr!

3. Let your control freak flag fly.

Scorpio is the sign of power and control. These traits get a bad rap, but the truth is, to be a mortal IS to be a control freak of sorts. So rather than try to change this utterly human trait, decide what’s worthy of getting all worked up about instead. Find a pursuit to obsess over, something that makes the world a better place. The way your chin looks on a video chat? Nope. The person who doesn’t return your texts? Hell no. An event that will raise money for a children’s charity? That’s more like it. A shot at a leadership position that lets you decide how to use your community’s natural resources sustainably? Don’t be shy—let that (control) freak flag fly!

4. Don’t hate, reincarnate.

Scorpio is the ruler of psychic and mystical phenomenon, including reincarnation. If you haven’t read Scorpio Brian Weiss’ Many Lives, Many Masters, it will change how you think about death and the soul—in a good way—forever. Explore past-life regression theory, or read up on your North and South Nodes to learn more about your own past-life karma and future destiny, by the stars.

5. Harness your sexual prowess.

Shimmy those hips, rock that pelvis, and awaken your second chakra (the ruler of money AND sex, both Scorpio terrain). Try a burlesque class, pole dancing, or invent your own sexy striptease. Perform it for yourself in the mirror, ‘cuz YOUR turn-on is the most important one. Check out “sacred seduction” expert Kitty Cavalier’s workshops—she even offers an online class on how to woo…and be, well, woo-woo.

6. Tune in to your soul.

We live in a world of high performance, achievement, competition. But everyone could use a little support from the spiritual realm. Tuck away that superhero cape and ask spirit guides, guardian angels, God, and the universe, whatever you want to call it…for a sign. Close your eyes and be where you are. Whether you do a moving meditation, a guided meditation (check out the astrologically inspired ones by Terri Cole), or take a few moments of silence, this practice has been shown to boost brain health and literally change the brain—putting you in the serene state of flow that Scorpio loves.

7. Create financial abundance.

A huge segment of the population (including us) deals with debt. After all, we live in a culture of accumulation and instant gratification. It’s easy enough to get there. But debt can drain our energy and steal from our souls if not managed. Scorpio rules the zodiac’s eighth house of wealth and joint finances. It’s the money we borrow, inherit, and owe. Today, pay a debt, even if it’s just a small piece of one. Make a plan for how you’ll pay any outstanding debts off, even if it’s a little monthly amount. The energy and intention are what sets the momentum forward. Feeling bold? Cut up a credit card. Are you debt-free and financially solvent? Make a donation. Do it even if you’re not. Scorpio is a karmic sign—what goes around comes around! If you haven’t read the totally relevant 1937 classic Think and Grow Rich by Scorpio Napoleon Hill, it’s the grandfather of all books linking money and energy.

8. Find clarity where there’s been a fog.

The devil is in the details, and Scorpio’s laser vision never misses a thing. Where in your life have you left things a little fuzzy around the edges? It could be affecting you more than you realize. Take tangible actions: Make a call, send an email, apologize to someone, tell the truth, whatever. Just DO it. Precision is the Scorpio aim.

9. Rise from the ashes.

Scorpio rules power, control, and transformation—it’s the mythic phoenix that rises from the ashes of destruction. What in your life needs to symbolically “die” so that something new can be born? Let it go—or at least, release your grip—and allow the Scorpio full moon to transmute it. Having trouble releasing? You might download The God Box mobile app, which allows you to write wishes and release stresses, which you type into your smartphone and release with the touch of a “Let It Go” button. Don’t worry—they’re saved if you ever want to look back, as we have, and realize, “Oh! That one got resolved on its own.”

full moon in scorpio, may 10

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*FULL MOON* in SCORPIO opens a gateway to our truest depths, where we can really tune in to our hearts deepest desires, and gleam our truest reflection.
If we can take this time to sit with ourselves, and be truthful about all we reject and deny, we can uncover, untangle and reclaim ourselves in our fullness.
We are both light and shadow, dancing and meeting each other in each other, to be ultimately reconciled within.
Scorpio reminds us to take take pleasure in the journey and allow our watery depths to surface, cleanse, heal and empower.
LEAH WHITEHORSE
“…what we need under a Scorpio Moon is connection – deep, intimate, powerful connection to another.
Whilst this sign is linked to sex, the intimacy here is not necessarily sexual – it’s about feeling understood, known, heard and seen. But before we can truly be seen by another, we need to connect with ourselves…
…the Moon’s sextile to Scorpio ruler Pluto. This is a supportive aspect that encourages us to get rid of dead wood, to challenge ourselves to change.
Mars, the co-ruler of Scorpio is not quite so well placed as he is waxing to a square with Neptune.  Underneath everything we may be feeling a little vulnerable and unsure of ourselves. Motivation may be dissipating or perhaps you’re just unsure of the goal you are trying to achieve.
As the Full Moon is trine to Neptune though, intuition is riding high – you just need to trust that inner voice. Can you trust it?

Mercury is just past a conjunction with Uranus; mentally, we’ve been getting a wake-up call and we’ve begun to see things differently. Flashes of knowing and light-bulb ideas stimulate the desire to break free. Under a change of perspective, old loyalties begin to wane.

Juno is conjunct Pluto and therefore also sextile to this lunation. Juno conjunct Pluto is about the power of commitment.  Consider what it would take to commit to your own vision, to wrestle back control, to stand up for what you truly believe in. Look to where you may need to change (Pluto) the contract (Juno) with yourself and/or others in order to be able to live your truth.
The sextile shows that the opportunity is there but you have to take the first step.
Deep down, you know what is right for you. Trust yourself.“
From PAT LILES from The Power Path.com:
“Full Moon in Scorpio is that one time in the year when the Moon reflects back to us in full glory our deepest, feminine water power.
Water is the element most impressionable, most reflective, most emotional, most empathetic, most patient…
With uniquely having three totems, the Scorpion, the Eagle, and the Phoenix, you have a choice as to how you will express your emotional power outwardly.
Will you sting self and others, will you fly above the daily pettiness and observe from your lofty perch utilizing perfect force and timing, or will you conquer personal obstacles by rising from your own ashes and being spectacularly, almost miraculously reborn?

Scorpio is where our healer resides…our abilities to recuperate and heal ourselves are part of Scorpio’s rulership…

We’re just beginning to feel the forward movement of Mercury that began May 3. All that revisiting and reorganizing and regrouping are beginning to pay off.
The past has reared its head and been seen in a new light. Who are we now? If you’ve managed to free up some space in your life, cleared the deck in some energetic way, you will now feel a welcome surge of movement.
Mercury is still traveling with the powerful planet Uranus. When these two get together, you have the potential for powerful mental energy – genius, inspiration like a lightning bolt where insights, solutions and ideas fall out of the sky.
We have the opportunity to suddenly shift our old ways of thinking and wake up to where we are in this moment. What happened?! We woke up and a huge chunk of time has passed.
Time to sweep the carcasses of the past out, free the magnificent phoenix within, and begin to tell a new story that is our life reborn. The truth and the releasing of that old, deep well of feeling will set your wisdom free.
Saturn is helping this shift by making its second of three passes trining Uranus (expect another in September). It’s nine months of masterful support to bring change into your life.
Saturn is here to test you and to support you, as any good father figure is wont to do. Of course, at the same time, Saturn has also just finished its squaring of Chiron working to heal what festers within our souls, but also to bring us out to be a bridge between the old ways and the new.“
And from PAM YOUNGHANS from her NorthPoint Astrology Journal:
 “This is the Wesak Full Moon, defined as the first Full Moon of the year while the Sun is in Taurus.
According to legend, at Wesak the Buddha and the Christ come together to link the East and West, uniting the world’s major religions in a shared holy day.
It is a sacred event for many, and a time when we all may choose to tap into the spiritual qualities of Love, Compassion, and Unity.

full moon in Libra 4/11/17

*FULL MOON* in Libra brings a heart+mind alignment so we can better navigate the delicate balance of me and we within all our relations.

 

Universal energies have definitely been moving fast these last few months, but after the April Full Moon, things are going to start slowing down. The April Full Moon falls on the 11th in the air sign of Libra. Libra is all about partnerships and balance, Libra is all about learning how to see both sides of the coin.

When the Moon is in Libra, it is the perfect time to put yourself in the shoes of someone else. How can you be more compassionate? How can you be of service to the world?

april-full-moon-astrology-2017The last few months have all been about setting goals and dreaming big. The Universe has been asking you to get clear about what you want, and about what you want the rest of the year to look and feel like.

Now however, the time has come to turn your attention onto others and onto your greater global mission. How can you serve the world? How can you benefit others?

There is no right or wrong answer here. In fact, the best way that you can serve others and the world is by being true to your authentic self.

In order to be true to your authentic self, you first have to love yourself. It is only when you love and accept yourself wholeheartedly, that you know who you really are. And when you know who you really are, that is when you can be of the greatest service to the world.

The April Full Moon is definitely going to be guiding us to get to know ourselves a little better. We will all be asked to slow down and reflect on the bigger picture mission behind our goals, dreams and wishes.

We have made big plans and planted our dreams, but now it is time to step back, slow down and be patient. Now it is time to let things marinate for a bit before moving forward again.

This is especially true seeing that this Libra Full Moon has some wildcard energy. This wildcard energy is nothing to fear, instead it is important to embrace it.  Slow down around the days leading into and after the Full Moon, and take the time to plan before forging ahead.

full moon libraBe patient and gentle with yourself and allow yourself time to process and release any lingering emotions. In fact, emotional energy will be high around the time of this Full Moon, so just be kind and loving with yourself.

Perhaps make time to do something relaxing and pampering and try your best to be patient, supportive and loving towards others.

With Venus and Mercury also in retrograde, you may have to be extra cautious about what you choose to share and how you choose to present things to others.

The energy of change has been in the air, but change is simply necessary for growth and this April Full Moon will be helping all of us to grow and embrace the changes that have arrived.

Trust and know that any changes you have been dealing with are simply there to push you out of your comfort zone into something bigger and better.

While the April Full Moon does bring its challenges and will be triggering us to grow, it also brings many rewards.

Around the time of the Full Moon, the Universe is going to be offering you a gift. Almost like reward for all of your hard work for the years gone by.

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Your hard work and the growth that you have already achieved has not been ignored or forgotten by the Universe, and in April it is going to be celebrated.

If something has changed or come to an end recently, whether it is a job, relationship, or the end of a journey, really make time to reflect and celebrate. Really make the time to congratulate yourself and to honor yourself for all of your hard work.

If health issues have arisen for you this year, also make the time to celebrate your body and to pay gratitude for the healing process.

In many ways, the April Full Moon is going to remind you that you have a lot to celebrate. As long as you can open your heart to this idea, the flood gates of celebratory energy will flow.

To navigate this wildcard Full Moon, gratitude is key. Use the energy of gratitude as your driving force for the month ahead – be thankful for all that was and for all that will be.

2017 is a year to build foundations and dream big, and the energy of the April Full Moon is simply reminding us to slow down, pause, reflect and be grateful for all that we have achieved.

 

Air signs are mental; so expect both some emotional objectivity along with excessive emotional analysis even obsession by the mind. An air sign Moon teaches us flexibility, to bend like a tree in the wind and to fly above the earth and gain perspective, neutrality and clarity.only major, radical social and political change is upon our planet but also the necessity of inclusion of our spiritual source.

 

CATHY PAGANO from her Wisdom of Astrology:
“In the aftermath of the long 2012-2015 Uranus in Aries square to Pluto in Capricorn, we are now engaged in the hard work of bringing our ideals about the future into our collective life.
And so these same group energies are active again, and can be used in positive, conscious ways or in mob-mentality, destructive ways.
Instead of thinking of this as a fight, think of it as Rising Up to our royal natures and taking responsibility for each other…
This Aries/Libra Full Moon is packed with power…
With the Sun in Aries, we seek a strong sense of self-identity– who am I and what am I here to do in this lifetime?
With the Moon in Libra, our unconscious seeks a balance through relating to others – can we allow others to be themselves without judgments and expectations?
Can we be ourselves when we’re with others, or do we need to hide ourselves behind ‘appropriate’ masks?
Can we be ourselves in partnership? Can we find the right partners for us?
These questions get supercharged at this Full Moon.  Let your unique genius rock the day.

© Copyright 2017 ~CATHY PAGANO  All Rights Reserved

CHAD WOODWARD from his Kosmic Mind:
“Luckily, the Full Moon in Libra conjoins Jupiter. That helps to open up new possibilities, opportunities, and connections for us at the right moment.
However, don’t overestimate what you can handle. Don’t be surprised if the universe throws you quite a lot with this Full Moon. Your job is to mindfully discern what it is you’re capable of taking on.
To start, take a deep breath (don’t forget to exhale). Find your center of calm or your happy place. Sit there and gather yourself.
Transitions are often stressful; that’s a natural consequence of change. 
This social Full Moon can give you a helping hand. Consider reaching out and putting yourself out there to truly benefit, but first, make sure you’ve found some place of balance within yourself.
That might not be reflected in your external life, but you can always find it within…
The need for freedom and authenticity is strong, which can go against cooperation or compromise in certain situations.
This Full Moon equally asks that we find some balance between the need to be true to ourselves and the need to integrate with others.
That’s a point of frustration, but again, consider new possibilities you’ve yet to encounter.
Put yourself in a place of receptivity and trust that you will find a new solution that’s truly out of the box.
And lastly, Venus, the ruler of the Full Moon is currently stationing and conjunct Chiron. That might accentuate heart wounds, shadows, and defects in our relationships, but realize that whatever pain you may encounter can be quickly transmuted with a change of attitude and a change of heart.
You have the power to rise above anything you encounter with others, by seeing it from a different perspective, or even focusing on bigger thing.”

virgo full moon: meaningful habits

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This Full Moon is in Virgo, the sign associated with those routines that comprise most of our days— working, running errands, preparing meals—as well as the habits we form through repetition of those routines. For the most part, we regard these habits and routines as entirely separate from our spiritual lives, a perspective this extends to our astrological lore, which relegates poor Virgo to the role of hapless drone while conferring spiritual honors upon its opposite sign, Pisces. In fact, the practices we identify as “spiritual” tend to be those traditionally associated with Pisces—meditation, bodywork, yoga, all of which have acquired increasing cachet while the homely tasks associated with Virgo are denigrated, and when possible, delegated.

But something is being lost, I think, in our determination to avoid these humble occupations; it’s often these small, ordinary tasks that offer the most accessible route from unconscious habit to mindful ritual, as well as the most frequent opportunities for attempting the journey.

Nag your child to finish her homework; do it every single weeknight (whether or not she actually has homework assigned), and soon you’ve got yourself a habit. Set aside half an hour each evening to sit with your child and talk about school, her assignments, and her experiences there, and you’ve entered the realm of ritual. You can immediately sense the difference between the two approaches; yet, both habit and ritual involve doing particular things at regular intervals in a particular way. What distinguishes them from one another?

Intention, and consciousness. You can sweep the kitchen floor each evening and hardly notice doing it, beyond a vague desire to have it over with as quickly as possible. But imagine you instead give your full attention to sweeping the floor carefully and thoroughly, visualizing the debris and disorder of your mind being swept away with the bread crumbs. Feel the difference?

Why make such a big deal out of sweeping a floor? Because we don’t live forever. Do you really have five minutes every day—more than thirty hours each year!—to waste on meaningless, unconscious activity? And yet the floor needs to be swept– a consequence of inhabiting a body that walks on things, eats things and spills crumbs. If you don’t occasionally sweep up the debris, pretty soon it offends the senses. So why not enjoy sweeping the floor, clearing it of life’s thriving, lively messiness? Why not use those five minutes as a sort of practical prayer, to celebrate being alive?

Honoring the Invisible

Virgo is the sign of habit, but equally the sign of ritual. Ritual is not magic; it is ordinary, everyday action performed with magical intention. It is the union of practical and spiritual, Virgo’s practicality and Pisces’ sensitivity. It is honoring spirit through the offering of our humble earthly abilities—modestly, with love and devotion.

Ritual is present in a house of bereavement, where friends and neighbors show their concern for the grieving with practical gifts of lovingly prepared food. It is present when I use my grandmother’s 75-year-old masher to prepare the Thanksgiving potatoes. It was present when my husband’s cousins spent the first days after their father’s death building an exquisite casket from wood their father had saved for this purpose.

Ritual is ordinary action carefully performed with extraordinary intention. It is how we honor the invisible with visible gestures.

From Habit to Ritual

During the two weeks between the Virgo Full Moon and the March 27 Aries New Moon, ferret out those circumstances that bore you, irritate you, or overwhelm you. Where in your life do you encounter drudgery, the feeling you’re “just going through the motions”? Where are you most likely to be annoyed or short tempered with others? What ordinary situations make you feel so overwhelmed, you no longer know how to untangle them? These are situations that suggest unconsciousness. They are situations which, if approached with intention rather than a sense of distasteful obligation, present the greatest avenue for your spiritual growth right now.

For instance, a client was overwhelmed by the idea of literally getting her house in order. She disliked housework, yet craved the order and serenity of tidy surroundings. What were her options? Here are a few that spring to mind:

  • Forgo cleaning the house, and grow increasingly dispirited by the disarray.
  • Hire someone to clean the house (not always an option).
  • Jump right in and start cleaning the house, gritting her teeth and cursing with every stroke of her scrub brush as her mind wanders to all the things she’d rather be doing.
  • Initiate this daunting project by tackling a single, well-defined task—say, cleaning one closet. Putting a favorite CD on the stereo, pouring something nice to drink, and taking the first, satisfying step toward restoring order and sanity to her home.

Which of her options sounds most spiritually energizing? Which carries the seed of spiritual expression? Which honors the invisible with a mundane but visible action?

The price we pay for too much unconscious, habitual activity is boredom, drudgery, fatigue, and irritability. So I invite you to experiment, at this Full Moon fortnight, with offering up whatever practical, Virgo skills you possess in the daily service of spirit and intention. With all the love and attention you can muster, bring order and attention to your abundance by balancing your checkbook. Honor your mobility and independence—wash your car! Bring serenity to your home by cleaning your house, one room, even a single drawer. Do these things not as a kind of hairshirt to prove your spiritual worthiness, but to celebrate and honor the spirituality that inhabits the everyday, the simple, the here and now.

you’re not broken.

this came to me from elephant journal at a moment when I desperately needed it.  I am still not fully able to accept it all, but working my way there, I hope.

There will always be days like these. Always. Ones that make you feel like switching off the sun, crawling underneath your skin and forgetting about this whole catastrophic cantankerous world.

 Today is too much. Yesterday was more than enough. Tomorrow you just don’t want to know.


You feel broken.

Your cells feel fractured in millions of places, each one dangerously free-falling out of control, slamming hard against the wretched cold, hard floor. Your body is pulled down with them and gravity’s force menacingly keeps you in place.

Everything feels to be against you. All of nature’s elements lean in to watch while you struggle to breathe as the excruciating emotions clog up in your chest.

Sometimes it feels easier to give up and to stay under the covers, rather than stepping over the weighted moments that torment us before they pass.

But, believe me, it isn’t easier and the longer you stay this way the harder it gets to blow the dense clouds that have gathered around you out of harms way.

Although you may have received a few cracks, you are definitely not broken. And I know the world can be dark at times, but there is far more light if you are willing to open your eyes and let it in.

You might have entangled with ones who twisted your love or foolishly mistook your vulnerability for weakness, but they aren’t dragging you down. You are doing it to yourself. Stop. You are more than that loss, that rejection, or the aggression and resentment that someone showed. You are more than your grief or your insecurities or your fear of being abandoned again. You are more than every minuscule or outrageous experience that has ever happened to you; you are limitless and you haven’t even tapped in to your full potential yet. 

So do not let whatever has happened so far define you, as every new encounter is a catalyst. Instead, let it catapult you ahead so that you may be carried with the waves and the wind.

You will always rise up wiser and stronger no matter how weakened you feel at the time.  

Parts of your journey may be irreparable, but you are resilient and although you may sway and bend, you will never break.

Even when people do things that hurt every fiber of your being, and you bruise and ache due to the excruciating avalanches of ice-cold cruelty that freeze you to the bone, as soon as your passion for life rages inside, you will quickly thaw out.

Existing on this planet can be harsh at times but the burning bright flame inside you that originated from magnificent exploding stars will never die out. It just temporarily fades when protective layers of armor guard it.

Your fire is safe. It has been glowing for billions of years so it’s not going to quit on you now.

You have to keep moving however rough the road gets.  

Shake up and awaken every cell…

Put up the fight of your life and search for any missing pieces. You won’t need to look far as you are not lost, just wandering a little off track. 

Look into the eye of the storm and recognize the reflection at the center. That’s where you are. In the safest, most secure place. The spinning, vibrating hurricane is twirling on the outside, taking care of you.

Do not glance forward or back right now, remain calm, harmonious and at one as the bewildering force of the universe, that is chaotic at times, is now holding you tight. It will always come when you call, although, it will also unexpectedly arrive to test you, usually through encounters with people who are not aware how valuable and cherished and essential you are. But, you will always emerge essentially altered so you have to surrender to your self and never doubt your worth. Make sure you disregard that noise that frantically tries to destabilize you. 

You may stumble and falter but you must keep going. You might even fall apart but each shattered piece knows where it belongs and will find its way back. The volcanoes erupting in your veins will slowly simmer back down.

You can break through and conquer this. It’s only your repeating, menacing thoughts and beliefs that are keeping you trapped in a cycle—by telling you that you can’t. Bend and twist them and turn them around or throw them right out. They are keeping you stuck where it feels familiar.

The incessant ramblings that are holding you down are challenging you to stand straight and question them, to regain the reigns and fix your crown. You are in control. Those triggered thoughts and old beliefs are not the truth, they are just an option and one you can choose to forget. It’s time to stop allowing them to drain your energy—you have the power to create and decide.

You’ve barricaded yourself in so that no one sees how damaged that delicate but fiercely pounding heart of yours is and you’ve hidden that contagious curve in your smile for far too long.

You’ve forgotten your unique multidimensional significance.

That’s okay. You needed some space and time. But those people out there now need your laughter. And they need your tears. They need you, however you show up.

There is someone specifically out there who needs you more than you know.

More importantly you need you.

You may not realize this right now, but I promise you, you are vital gift to the earth.

I’m just here to remind you to feel everything deeply. Feel it all, let it run over you. Scream if you want to and let it all out, but don’t ever be afraid of love. The stirring in your soul is necessary. Allow it to move through you and out so it touches everything that exists, regardless of proximity.

Find some thread, stitch up your wounds with colorful thread and create a beautiful tapestry all over your skin. Piece yourself together like a beloved and patchwork blanket and watch how the battle scars that adorned your mind miraculously heal.

“There is a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in.” ~ Leonard Cohen

 

You are not broken. You are breaking through.

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How Each Sign of the Zodiac Expresses Their Anger

I posted about how the signs experience sadness a few days ago, and now thespiritscience.net has posted this one about anger, also helpful….

It doesn’t matter who you are. Everyone gets angry from time to time. And when we’re angry, we tend to leave patience, humility and common sense behind, even if only for a moment. Maybe once we realize how we typically respond to things that anger us, we can work on delivering a better response.

So, here are some of the typical things each zodiac sign usually has to work on when it comes to acting out in anger.

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Arians are definitely one of the quickest to anger. After all, they are one of the fire signs. They have a burning fire within them and at times you may see bouts of that fire bursting forth in anger. This is their dark side.

They don’t usually start arguments with people, but they certainly know how to end them. At times they can be impatient and volatile, especially when pushed past their limits or when they are forced to deal with something before they believe they are ready.

But, as quick as they are to anger, they are usually just as quick to calm down and even forgive those who angered them in the first place. They are one of the signs most capable of ‘forgiving and forgetting’.

 

Taurus-
Taureans are usually quite fair tempered creatures. They tend to be very slow to anger. But when they do get angry, you had better watch out! Disloyalty, inequality, betrayal, those are the sort of things that really get on their nerves. Other than that, most Taureans don’t want to waste their time and energy on getting angry.

shutterstock_52556008When they do get angry it can take a long time for them calm them down again. It’s best to give them space until that time.

Unless of course, Taurus is calm enough to try and talk things out. If they are, give them a chance to get their thoughts out in the open, otherwise you may anger them even more for refusing to listen.

After the argument is over, they are usually very quick to forgive, unless of course you’ve done something extreme that they consider unforgivable.

They will still be civil with you in most cases afterward, but you won’t be able to bring the relationship back to what it once was.

 

Gemini-
As you probably already know, Geminis are known as the Twins. You may as well flip a coin when it comes to how they’re going to react when in anger.

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They may seem completely calm and centered when their words of anger cut you to the core.

Geminis LOVE to talk. That’s usually what they do best. When in anger that does not change.

When you piss off a Gemini, get ready to be chewed out. Anger may start as rudeness or sarcasm, but it can quickly change to screaming, yelling and throwing things.

Luckily, they don’t tend to stay angry for an extended period.

As long as you don’t tell a Gemini what to do or how to act, they may be able to forgive and forget.

 

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Cancers are a very sweet, understanding, loyal and loving sign. And that’s really all they want in return. If they feel unloved, unappreciated or offended by something, the first sign is usually sulking.

If you’re not getting the hints, it may evolve into shutterstock_52555993passive aggressive behavior. If you’re still not getting the hints, they will more than likely go into hiding.

Cancers in recluse mode may act as though they really do not want to talk to you, but that is usually just a ruse. In most cases they actually do want to work things out, they just don’t want to be the ones making all the effort.

If you ignore them or blow them off, they will take it as even more evidence that you don’t care, thus doing more damage to the relationship.

Since they are so loving and loyal, they expect their loved ones to be as well. They will usually forgive you not long after, so long as the argument isn’t over something major.

 

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When it comes to arguments with Leo’s, it’s all about who can roar the loudest. Just about anything will set them off, and when it does, they will certainly let you know about it.shutterstock_52555996

They will kick, scream, rant, rave, throw things around the house and make quite the spectacle.

They will probably say a bunch of hurtful things that they don’t actually mean too, so don’t take it personally. They’re just trying to get their anger out in the best way they know how – by venting.

After they’ve cooled off they won’t hold a grudge. In fact, they are probably most likely to come back in the room soon after, acting like nothing happened at all. They are quick to anger, but they are quick to move past it as well.

 

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Virgos are one of the most patient and loving signs. They can take an unbelievable amount of abuse from people before they start showing signs of frustration and anger.

They try to avoid doing so because they aren’t very comfortable expressing shutterstock_52555990their anger. But when they need to let it out, their emotions can get very intense.  Their anger can be so strong, you may even feel it from the other room.

Virgos are still quite passive aggressive when angry too. They usually avoid confrontation and arguments at all cost. They find it much easier to walk away when they are angry, rather than sticking around to scream it out.

Virgos are also very forgiving, and won’t really hold a grudge. Then again, they don’t tend to forget either.

They are far less likely to trust someone after they realize their trust has been misplaced.

 

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Libras is the peacekeeper sign, so the scales are the perfect symbol for them. They always try to keep things equal and well balanced in their relationships, so anger and outbursts are avoided at all costs. That’s why they tend to keep quiet and bottle everything up until their lose their cool.

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However, since they are one of the most sensitive signs, just about anything under the right circumstances can set them off.

When angry words start flying around, that’s when Libra usually makes a run for it. They may say a few choice words, but usually those words are shouted as they’re running off.

Even at the verge of their rage, they will hold back, think twice, and put up the sweetest poker face they can muster.

If you hurt them enough times, they will certainly hold a grudge.

They also tend to take note of all the things they hate about a certain situation, and then mentally file them away to use against you later on.

 

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Want to know if a scorpio is angry? Watch their eyes. They tend to let you know with their eyes a lot sooner than they do with the rest of their body language. Like a few signs we previously mentioned, Scorpio is another one that tends to keep shutterstock_52556002 (1)their anger on lockdown. For a time, anyway.

They tend to get angry in their head first, then they plan their next actions accordingly.

Sometimes their only action is to chew you out in their mind without saying a word. Other times, they are just quiet because they are planning their next argument in advance.

This usually happens long before they are angry enough to explode. So, if you see the angry eyes and then they get really quiet – it’s probably best to give them some space until they seek you out to talk things over.

If you try and push them into sharing their thoughts too soon, you may regret it.

Scorpios are also one of the signs that are more likely to hold long term grudges. They may forgive, but they will never, ever, forget.

 

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Dishonesty, disloyalty, cruelty and hate speech of any kind is usually enough to anger a Sagittarius, and when a Sag gets angry they take no prisoners. When you piss one off, you know it, and you better walk away. Fast. Though, they do tend to have a lot of patience with most people so you probably won’t see them get angry very often.shutterstock_52555999

The first sign of irritation before anger arises is most likely to be overwhelming sarcasm.

If a Sagittarius is getting angry, their conversation is probably just dripping with it. Most Sag’s try to keep their anger under wraps because losing their cool can make them feel quite embarrassed after they’ve calmed down.

The most important thing to watch out for, is that they don’t create drama out of boredom.

Sag’s like problem solving and working out issues, so they can occasionally create problems at home or work without consciously intending to.

 

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Capricorns are an earth sign, so they are pretty easy going most of the time. However, they can have some rigid requirements for keeping the peace at home.

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Most likely because they simply want their space to be kept how they like it.

You never know what will make a capricorn angry. You may not even notice when they first get angry either.

That’s because Capricorns also tend to keep their emotions bottled up. Especially the negative ones. They’d much rather sulk and give you the cold shoulder over yelling.

In the end, they may lose their cool for a second and make a big fuss, but they will get over it quickly.

They will usually forgive you after they tell you how disappointed they are in you.

 

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Aquarians really can’t stand to argue, especially when it comes to pointless arguments with stubborn people. They are the ones most likely to ignore you when they’re angry. They’d much prefer go for a walk or a drive rather than stick around and argue it out.shutterstock_52556014

If they can’t avoid what’s irritating them, they may feel cornered and explode out of sheer frustration.

They will then abruptly avoid you at all costs until they have calmed down again.

Or, they may just avoid you completely in the future. It all depends on who the argument is with. If it’s a new relationship, they may not see worth in the effort of repairing it.

 

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With a Piscean it all depends on what kind of day you catch them on. If they’re already having a bad day, they may explode if you set them off.

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If their day is going either way, then most Pisceans tend to avoid confrontation at all costs.

They would much rather go have a smoke or a drink to help them calm down, rather than stick around for an argument.

If that doesn’t make them feel better, then usually a good cry will.

They are probably the sign most likely to start crying out of frustration and anger, rather than flying into a rage and smashing things. of

When it comes to grudges, Pisceans will hold them in extreme situations, but for how long all depends on the circumstances.

How Each Zodiac Sign Handles Their Sadness

from thespiritscience.net

Sadness can be a difficult emotion to deal with. Different people can have different reactions to sadness.  Some of us don’t acknowledge it, some of us don’t clearly recognize it, and some let sadness become destructive.  It’s a tough journey, but learning to face and manage feelings of sadness in a healthy way can allow us to live a fuller life with more self-assuredness and sense of bravery.

Sadness in itself is a controversial topic. It is often paired as the opposite of happiness, and what exactly is happiness? How do we define it? Happiness too can be a subjective experience.

Sometimes we may be in search of constant feelings of extreme joy and bliss, without a trace of sad feelings. Sometimes we  may choose feelings of sadness without realizing, as it can at times feel more comfortable. As understandable as these points are, these can become unhealthy ways to relate to happiness or sadness, that don’t actually serve us.

That being said, sadness is a part of life. As one of my favourite poets Rumi says, “the wound is the place where the light enters you”.  Today we will be noting how different zodiacs may relate to sadness, and tips for how to deal with sadness in a healthy way.

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Aries people are known to be courageous, optimistic, confident and passionate. During times of sadness, their fiery natures may make them prone to making impulsive decisions, as well as masking their pain with burning anger.

One way an Aries can serve their greater good while in this state is to ask themselves before making decisions, “will this [decision, action etc] really serve me?”

This can bring their conscious awareness to consider such a question, and make better decisions for themselves. Another way to better tune in to their feelings, is to meditate.

This can allow them to get better in touch with their emotions. If the stillness feels too daunting, perhaps planning an adventure where they can redirect their energy can help.

Taurus (April 20th – May 20th)

Taurus people are known to be dependable, practical, devoted and responsible. When experiencing sadness, they want to be shutterstock_308306837alone. While Taurus people are known for being patient, during times of sadness they may find their patience waning.

Another situation that may happen for Taurus during sadness is that they may sleep and eat more and irregularly, and “indulge in their vices to cope”.

While Taurus like being alone in their sadness, it may help them to share their thoughts and feelings with a trusted friend or a professional counsellor. This can help them better cope with their pain.

During such times, practicing self-compassion, and realizing that we all experience hurt, pain and sadness at times can help.

Recognizing our pain as a human experience, while realizing it also as an individual experience, can keep us from falling victim to our pain. Another recommendation would be to keep a routine, as that can keep us from falling deeper into our feelings of sadness in a way that doesn’t serve us. Once again, asking “will this act really serve my best interest?”, can keep us from making bad decisions.

 

Gemini (May 21st – June 20th)

Gemini people are known to be affectionate and curious thinkers. During times of sadness, their thinking abilities may be on full speed. Sometimes this over thinking can be a way to distract themselves, which Gemini tries to do when sad.  They may also fall into depression.shutterstock_382594525

When facing these periods of over thinking, what the brain often really needs is just relaxation. I know it’s easier said than done, however with practice, and just the knowing that we don’t need to have all the answers today, that becomes possible.

One effective way for a Gemini experiencing this tendency to get through this period is through journaling.

This is an excellent way to give our thoughts another home, and time to sort themselves out. You will likely feel a lot of relief after doing this activity. When you’re ready, it can also be helpful to speak to a trusted friend, whose advice you trust and who will be objective. They can help us have a better understanding of the situation.

 

Cancer (June 21st – July 22nd)

shutterstock_121986982Cancer people have a highly active imagination, incredible sense of loyalty, and are naturals in the art of persuasion.

They also experience emotions deeply. Due to this reason, times of sadness may feel especially heavy. They may experience a lot of tears and feelings of loneliness. Joining a support group can be helpful, as it allows an avenue of connection, and a safe place to share strong feelings.

Doing grounding exercises can also be helpful. Taking time to connect with nature, and the Universe, or a Higher Power can deepen a sense of support and being looked after.

It can also remind us that we aren’t alone, but all connected to one another and something greater in some way. Journalling, and practicing an art is also a helpful activity.

 

Leo (July 23rd – August 22nd)

Screen Shot 2016-07-24 at 7.55.13 PMLeo people are known to be creative, passionate and warmhearted individuals.

During times of sadness, Leo can be very transparent with their emotions. Some may interpret their being open about their emotions as a form of exaggeration. They may also act or say things that hurt the people around them.

Leos are quick to bounce back from feelings of sadness. One way to cope with sadness for Leo is to use their feelings to create art.

Perhaps a poem, a painting, an idea for a book may present itself.

Also, it’s important to take individual responsibility for our feelings, and be mindful not to react in ways that hurt other people when we are feeling down.

 

Virgo (August 23rd – September 22nd)

Virgo people are known to be loyal, kind and hardworking people. When experiencing sadness, they may prefer to be alone. They also may disconnect with their emotions by engaging in actions compulsively. When experiencing anger and sadness, they may become pessimistic and blunt, maybe even mean.

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Journaling is a healthy way to connect with our emotions. Writing stories is also a way to reflect on our emotions while maintaining some level of distance.

Engaging in meditation or prayer can also help.

As for avoiding hurting others, once we can connect with the awareness that we aren’t feeling so great, we can gently give our loved ones a heads up on how we are feeling.

An “I’m not feeling my best today” can be all we need to say.  We can choose to be alone on such days, or keep conversations light.

 

Libra (September 23rd – October 22nd)

shutterstock_376051666Libra people are known for their sense of justice, diplomacy,  as well as agreeable and social natures. When experiencing sadness, Libras may feel very moody and unstable. They may not want to reveal how they really feel to others, as people view them as full of life and positivity.

They may not want to lose their image.

Self-compassion is very important especially in such times. It helps to know that sadness is a human experience, and we don’t become lesser beings by having sad moments. It will pass, if we let it.

We can reach out to a trusted friend or counsellor to discuss our problems. Also, don’t be afraid to take time off from socializing and connecting when you need to.

 

Scorpio (October 23rd – November 21st)

Scorpios have a reputation for being brave, resourceful and tenacious. When experiencing sadness, they don’t bother hiding shutterstock_284270072it. They may have mood swings and their emotions may affect others.

When feeling such powerful charge of emotions, it can be helpful for us to take time alone for ourselves.

The tenacious and resourceful nature of the scorpio is sure to pose solid suggestions in how to best take care of our situations.

Better managing our emotions when we are alone can help us better manage our emotions when with other people.  This can help avoid a lot of conflict and hurt feelings.

Meditation and journaling can also help. When experiencing strong emotions, speaking to a counsellor can also help tremendously.

Sagittarius (November 22nd – December 21st)

Sagittarius people are known to be funny, generous and idealistic people. They can experience very heavy emotions and become very depressed when feeling low.

However, they can also be resourceful in knowing how they can feel better when feeling sad and low. Sometimes this can lead to substance abuse; However, it doesn’t have to!

While Sagittarius people tend not to seek support when feeling sad, turning to a trusted friend or counsellor can be very helpful for them.

Dialogue with a good counsellor can become a way to open up to the sound advice of others as well as ourselves, and pull ourselves back into our magic.

 

Capricorn ( December 22nd – January 19th)

shutterstock_342869825Capricorn people are known to have good self-control, and be disciplined and responsible.

When experiencing sadness, they may feel hopeless and pessimistic. Like Gemini people, Capricorn people may also begin to overthink too much in face of sadness.

While experiencing such emotions, it helps to reach out to people we can trust. It helps to surround ourselves with a positive support team.

Speaking to a good counsellor can also help, as they can suggest exercises we can use to feel more positive and optimistic as well as have a more objective understanding of a situation.

 

Aquarius (January 20th – February 18th)

Aquarius people are known to be unique, progressive and independent people.

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They are thought to detach from their emotions, and live in their heads. During times of sadness, they may engage in this same approach, and avoid talking about their emotions.

It can be helpful for Aquarius people to journal their thoughts, and seek ways to connect with their emotions in a healthy way.

They can use their experiences to become more evolved on their journey, and also help other people.

 

Pisces (February 19th – March 20th)

Pisces people are known to be wise, compassionate and artistic souls. During times of sadness, they may  become stuck in negative emotions, and re-live past hurts. They may become very pessimistic.

shutterstock_313627550Engaging in acts of self-compassion can help us nurture our hurt feelings before they cry out even more.

Practicing meditation, speaking to a counsellor, and journaling can help us make sense of what we know, and make peace with what we do not know, and move forward on our journeys.

Here were some basic points on how each of the zodiac signs reacts to experiences of sadness, and some suggestions that can help them better manage their emotions.

Hopefully by engaging in such practices during tough times, we can navigate ourselves through seas of tough times requiring faith in the unknown, self-understanding and self-care!

pain, and all that goes along with it.

so.  hi.

I’ve taken a pretty apparent hiatus from writing here and being online in general – not on purpose.  in early December, some things came to light and happened in my personal life that honestly devastated me.  I never expected to feel this much pain – and when faced with personal pain, I always thought I’d be strong enough to bounce back easily.

this experience has proven me wrong.

at the same time, I am learning – in the hardest way possible – some important things.  I’m learning about my limitations and negative tendencies as a partner and friend.  I am learning about the deep challenges of my 7-ness (enneagram) – my tendency to avoid pain and hardship at all cost, and how sometimes, I have to sit in the middle of it and fully feel this pain to know what my heart really wants.

it has not been easy and it’s still not easy.  weeks later, I am at a point where I can get out of bed, but it’s not easy.  I can eat, but it’s not easy and I have to make it happen.  I can work, but I struggle to be with people very much.  I can sleep – with the aid of some medication.

I’m not a pro.  in some areas, I am a novice, and I am still learning.  I suppose the most important thing is that I accept it, and welcome it, and start from scratch anywhere I can.

there are things I honestly don’t know how to face right now.  I have moments of clarity when I truly feel that this is a turning point – when I have a true chance to burn away the old and negative, and build something gorgeous and holy.  there are others when I think I am never going to make it out of this labyrinth of shit, when I feel like I’ll be angry and hurt forever.

I know that what matters now is the choices I make – the choices we make are what define us.  I don’t want to give up on what means so much to me, but I refuse to be weak forever.

I know what I am worth.  I know what I can do and be.   I know it means a lot of self-exploration, facing the ugly, and changing.

I have been surprised, in a sad way, that some of the people I expected to care and reach out to me during this time have been so silent.  that was/is depressing, and I hope it doesn’t mean I have other lessons to learn in those areas.

but, on the other hand, I am really grateful to several of you who have checked in often, given selflessly, encouraged me, and asked me to start writing and sharing again.  each time, I initially said that I just can’t share or give or anything from a sort of shattered place, only to have you guys tell me that maybe this is exactly when I should share.  maybe you’re right.  maybe this is the time I need to let it flow and share what helps.

going to do my best to be more present now, and not as buried….

and in that vein, I very much hoping this is true for me and others in 2017…..

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